The Dream of Border Mountain has long been in the heart of JoAnne Chitwood , a hospice nurse with extensive professional and personal experience in the areas of grief and loss.
The board and staff of Border Mountain believe
that there is a great need for deeper understanding of the grief process in
our denial reinforcing society today. John Eldredge, in his book The
Journey of Desire (Thomas Nelson), speaks in support of this process
after the loss of his best friend and colleague, Brent Curtis, in a climbing accident:
One morning I woke early and could not get back to sleep. My soul was agitated, restless. After what seemed like an hour of tossing and turning, I rose and slipped out of the cabin to take a walk. Waves of grief began to sweep over my soul. But it was not all about Brent or even primarily about him. His death was the lance that pierced the wound of all the ungrieved grief of my life. Sorrows from my marriage, from college days, from wounds I received as a child-all of them poured forth through this place of release...
If we do not give our ache a voice,
it doesn't go away.
It becomes the undercurrent of our addictions.
Pleasure becomes necessary in larger and larger doses, like morphine. The paradox of grief is that it
is healing, it somehow restores our soul, when all
the while we thought it would leave us in despair.
control is the enemy; grief is our friend.
“The human drama
does not show itself
on the surface of life;
it is not played out
in the visible world,
but in the hearts
of men and women.”